Baby Parenting Guide

What would you do if it came to your future baby's health?

You or your wife (if you're a guy) were expecting a child and found out that the baby you were going to have was going to be born with complications such as severe autism, down syndrome, or some other debilitating disease that would require your 110% dedication and care since the child wouldn't grow up able to take care of itself. Your financial situation is barely able to afford your little apartment and a "normal" baby and you options are... --grin a bear it, rely on foodstamps and making hubby work super long shifts to be able to afford treatments and taking care of your child well into your senior years, giving custody up once you get too old... --hope someone is willing to adopt your special child and put faith in the adoption system in finding a suitable family... --abort and simply keep the child from living a life of suffering and doubt while knowing God can do better than you... --or...? How would you handle a situation like that? Sensitive, but its something to consider. I'm all for taking care of disabled children (going into pediatric nursing hoping to do so)... However if you're financial situation doesn't really allow the medical bills and one breadwinner? Life has many "IF"s in it. I'd just like to know peoples opinions on things like this. Something the government should pay attention to and lend a couple of their billions to helping out with huh?

Public Response to What would you do if it came to your future baby's health?

1. We can all spectulate but cannot answer that until we are faced with it and maybe not even then.
2. Abortion? Is that the answer your looking for?
3. Will take all the risks after careful tests and evaluation.
4. me and my wife would keep it no doubt it would be hard.
5. Wow this sounds as if having a disabled child is the worst thing in the world. ---Raise and love the baby ---Give the baby away. Telling yourself a disabled child takes just a little more work. ---Kill the baby I just do not think this is something to ponder over. In other words a no brainier. Life is not always easy. Take the good and the bad, and try and make the bad into the good.
6. nobody would know untill actually faced with it...definitley keep the baby...do the best i can.........abortion=murder every child deserves a chance at life.
7. Amazing and disgusting we have come to this,a child doesn't live up to the genetic expectations to just simple euthanize it,suck its body apart limb by limb while in the womb because the health of the baby isn't up to par and not financially able to take care of it.How damn disgusting is this?? My children are the greatest gifts I could have ever received,and guess what,my son had cancer,a brain tumor,and guess what,I am divorced no child support and guess what I have a job to take care of my not so perfect children.And I would die before someone takes the life of my child in or out of the womb. With your rationale,I guess the brown eyed child will be destroyed next right??? BTW,if people can't afford children,they shouldnt have them.I didnt depend on welfare or the govt for food stamps or medical.It was hard work,but you know what..,my children are grown and both are hard workers..,you reap what you sow.
8. I'd have an abortion. That's why I took the test. If that was not allowed, I'd leave my husband, pretend it was for some other reason, leave the country, and have an illegal one and try to recover if it didn't kill me. Life is tough enough without such major gaps. If the test showed that the child (future human being) would have some problems, but could in this day & age live an independent and full life as an adult, I would of course work all the hours I could, accept all the help I could for them, campaign for their chance to have treatment, and encourage them to go for it. If I had other children who were going to get 2% of all we could afford to offer, then I'd abort the fetus also. They do not deserve to be neglected and jealous and then burdened with someone else's child on a deathbed promise. It is normal to care for your children. All of them. It's normal to feel that the ones who need you most deserve all of your attention. But it's not right, and if I gave birth to one who would effectively take us away from the others, then expect them to carry on as though it were their own and they loved it, that's asking for grief.
9. first of all a baby is a true blessing,and may God bless you for being so opened and honest about your feelings .my mother was in a very similar situation,fixed income,she was in her 40's when she became pregnant w/ my younger brother,and so they were looking for the baby to have all sorts of health problems.Mom 's husband is much older than she and isn't able to work full time ,abortion wasn't an alternative.No way she would consider giving him up in any way.Anyways,the baby had a stroke at birth and was left w/ not being able to talk,he can communicate w/ us, in many ways,he does have many health issues but my mom and step father love,love,love him.We all help when we can .He is a real sweet boy AN absolute blessing(age:10 now). I will pray that you make the right decision and I believe you will,and please know that it is true that God wouldn't bless you w/ this child if He didn't think you could do it.He only allows us to go through what we can handle.My brother has changed all of our lives for the best.He has shown us a greater love and compassion that we other wise may had never known. May God bless you and keep you, Dan's wife
10. All children deserve 110% of your dedication and care. There are no normal or abnormal children. Please quit labeling.
11. When you think of disabled children as financial burdens first and people second, you are venturing into dangerous territory. Your thinking sends a chill down the spine of myself and many other parents of disabled children. Some 70 years ago a man named Adolf Hitler (you may have heard of him) had a similar idea that the disabled were worthless and began a campaign to dehumanize and eventually eradicate them using the "financial burden" argument. Jewish people weren't the only ones who were victims of the holocaust-some 2 million disabled were murdered as well. For some reason, it seems nobody is aware of this fact anymore. It is true that if we don't learn from history, we are doomed to repeat it. People say it can't happen again but it is and nobody sees it for what it is. Since testing for downs began, some 90% of downs fetuses have been aborted. They are developing a similar prenatal test for autism. Wake up-THIS IS GENOCIDE! People like you (and Hitler) think their lives aren't worth living and that you're doing them a favor by sparing them a life of suffering. I think my child and those like him (and the millions who have been killed because they werent' considered human) would have a strong disagreement with that school of thought. Do the world a favor and don't ever get pregnant. You'll only be producing another eugenist. That would be a true blight on humanity.